Hello again, dear friend Anonymous. Welcome back to our sex talk column. This week’s question comes from our very own editorial Slack channel: Does anyone actually like 69ing? 

The position, where two partners give each other oral sex simultaneously, is controversial. So please enjoy our scintillating and unfiltered Slack discussion. 

Editor’s note: Although this article uses male pronouns, the advice applies to all sexual orientations and gender identities.

Ofc, this isn’t representative of everyone. If you like it, do it! If you don’t like it, don’t do it!

And without further ado…

Allie
Okay, ladies, give me your thoughts on 69ing—yes or no?

Nicole
It’s a no for me, and I’ll tell you why.

Allie 
Yes, please!

Nicole
Love to give a BJ. It’s an art, it takes a little finesse, and knowing what your partner likes is like DJing several different regions. I want to give it the attention it needs without trying to prop myself up with my ass backing up over my partner’s face like a dump truck (even tho boys love this dump truck).

Plus, I can’t concentrate on getting my own down there when I’m doing all that, so it kinda does nothing for me. I need to focus to get there. I guess I’d do it for a little bit if I had a partner who LOVED it, but it’d really be out of love or obligation. LOL!

Alexa
Yes, down. 

Nicole
Can’t wait for Alexa’s debate. 

Allie
SAME!

Nicole
Basically, if I was just hooking up with a guy, and he was like “let’s 69,” I’d be like “pass.”

Alexa
Okay…

I love hearing a guy moan. It’s a kink, feeling like you’re in control, knowing that you’re giving him pleasure…ugh, say less. There’s something really hot about pleasuring your partner. Also, when your boyfriend’s little guy is NOT so little, oral sex is a must in the bedroom. It’s become a staple in our sex routine and often replaces sex itself.

I used to think the key objective of a blowjob was putting the whole thing in your mouth. Little, naive Alexa. I can now say after years of practice I’ve realized there’s so much more to the “art.” Game on.

Nicole
HOT! AGREE. But 69ing…you’re down?

Alexa
OMG! 69ing! HAHAHA, frick no! I misread the hw assignment. I’m not a gymnast.

Allie 
LOLOL!

Like, sometimes will I giggle and tap my fiance’s shoulder when my treadmill is at .69 miles? Sure, because I am immature. 

But if he actually wanted to 69, I’d be like, “Babe, how about I sit on your face first and then it’ll be your turn?” I can’t multitask like that. 

Thankfully, we are on the same page. I just confirmed with him and he says, “It looks cool in practice, but when you try it…no. It’s uncomfortable.” 

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